Men carry the heavy weights. Men are the ones who earn the family bread. Men make the decisions. Men handle the money. Men don't cry. All that represents power and control belong to the man while the woman is the "woman behind the man". Masculinity comes from being proud of being a man. A man in different situations gives a man in that situation a particular attribute. A man who is around when things are being lifted is supposed to lift things and leave the women around to relax. A man is supposed to be street smart. A man always rides geared bikes. A man is physically, emotionally and mentally strong. He shows no weaknesses. If the father is dead, the eldest brother takes over because he has been passed down the role of the man/head of the house.
Men have always been associated with being "macho". To be in control is a mans comfortable position. He's got to show the world that he's the man-that he has got it all under control. Is masculinity all about being macho? Masculinity comes from self-pride (so does feminity).
Being proud of yourself is no sin but when it is driven into one's head that a man is that and this one would naturally want to be so because that is what one has ben told. Men may have the physical marking of being strong but we forget that he has a heart and soul just like the us the other sex (would not say opposit because we are not opposit we are so much alike but just diferent!!).
He too gets hurt. He too gets his sentiments offended. He wants to cry when some his love dies, or sometimes without any reasons at all. He needs a helping hand. Masculinity has been taken to extremes. Sometimes a woman comes along to take that place that he has always been taken by a man and he should just let it be because its allright.
He doesn't have to prove to himself that he is a man of the proportions that he is. He knows how much of a man he is and how much of a man he wants to be. Everybody else may not know but he (each and every individual) does know. What is important is that he uses his masculinity to his advantage and his efficiency. Basically, everybody should just chill out and be as masculine or feminine as they like. The world would be more peaceful and i would love it...!!!
Men have always been associated with being "macho". To be in control is a mans comfortable position. He's got to show the world that he's the man-that he has got it all under control. Is masculinity all about being macho? Masculinity comes from self-pride (so does feminity).
Being proud of yourself is no sin but when it is driven into one's head that a man is that and this one would naturally want to be so because that is what one has ben told. Men may have the physical marking of being strong but we forget that he has a heart and soul just like the us the other sex (would not say opposit because we are not opposit we are so much alike but just diferent!!).
He too gets hurt. He too gets his sentiments offended. He wants to cry when some his love dies, or sometimes without any reasons at all. He needs a helping hand. Masculinity has been taken to extremes. Sometimes a woman comes along to take that place that he has always been taken by a man and he should just let it be because its allright.
He doesn't have to prove to himself that he is a man of the proportions that he is. He knows how much of a man he is and how much of a man he wants to be. Everybody else may not know but he (each and every individual) does know. What is important is that he uses his masculinity to his advantage and his efficiency. Basically, everybody should just chill out and be as masculine or feminine as they like. The world would be more peaceful and i would love it...!!!
Sana its really very kind of you that you being a female appreciated the “other sex” so well. Quit interesting observations and these are real too to some extent. But as we are progressing in today’s world, the man is losing the glory of being men. What you have narrated is the one side of the coin. The definition of manhood or macho man is changing with the passage of time. If I talk about the Emperors and Kings up to the age of our loved freedom fighters, thn I think the sprit of real men was there. Now as everything is changing in this globalization, so does the man. I would not have any issues with the changes, had these been for good and to make better personality. But as we all knows this is not d case. The man has become the most dishonest, unreliable and self contend creature on this earth, who doesn’t want to lose any opportunity to make fool of others. I am saying this especially for men becoz in females this instinct has not developed so drastically as of yet. The female is quit less greedy than a man, atleast you can not expect from her to cheat her own father, but a man can do that so easily without any hitch. There are many more things other than these issues which are tarnishing the image of a man. He can use anyone even his own wife for so called successes. He can exploit others under the garb of their success. I think its enough to give you the idea in which direction m going.
ReplyDeleteLastly, the man has become the master of the manipulations and like many others I am also learning this art willing or unwilling to survive in this world. :)