my present and others...

It is irrelevent to the present how i would like the things to have been. How things are is the only factor I can deal with. Unless i begin wih my life as it is, I am centered in a fanasy. When i find myself blaming, I can be certain that I have falen into this trap. If I see only how others could have been. I blame others. And if I see how others are, blame is impossible!!